#17 Home Again

Just around dinner time last night, Dr. W dropped into my hospital room asked if I felt like going home. Enthusiastically, I responded "Yes!"

Becky and I looked at each other and smiled in relief. We were free to go home.

I had resigned myself to stay for the night again, as the nurses had informed me that my doctor was really cautious, and I should not expect to go home.

But Dr. W confirmed that the results from the massive intravenous fluid hit earlier in the morning had worked and my numbers looked really good. Plus, my condition was strong enough for her to release me and she wrote up the paperwork.

Less than an hour later, after changing into street clothes and packing my gear, Nicki, my day nurse, stopped into my room to remove my IV tube, have me sign the paperwork and escort me to meet Becky and the car at the front of the hospital to drive home. In solidarity with one of my heroes, I chose to walk out the front door and refuse the wheelchair.

Emotionally and physically exhausted, now alone in the car, Becky and I cried as we exited the parking lot of Scripps Green Hospital. This last week has been one of the most profound of our lives. It's still all very raw right now.

It will take time for us to metabolize the experience in a way that makes sense to share. And, I promise, I will.

For now, this update is to let you know I am now home, resting and recuperating.

I'm walking 1,200 steps through our neighborhood as many times as I can today and then resting again. Sweet, quiet rest. No interruptions every 20 minutes as has been the case this last week. With the frenetic activity of hospital living gone, I'm aware of how tired I am because of how little sleep I've had.

You may wonder about Becky. She too is resting. As much as I went through the actual surgery, she's been by my side and through every other aspect of this process, solid as a rock. But, she's also been managing our lives, being a Mom, business owner, as well as communicating with family, friends, you and many others at the same time. I am, without question, the luckiest man in the world to call her my wife.

I also want to specifically thank you today. Thanks for your thoughts, good wishes, prayers and support. Thanks for the messages sent through Becky or Janelle to me throughout the week. I was read every one of them.

You must know I have felt your presence. In every moment where I was feeling scared or uncertain, I reminded myself of the gift of your care. I am humbled and grateful.

As has been the case throughout this last week of my hospitalization, I will remain disconnected from the internet, email, cell phone, FaceBook and other communication media. My most important goal for the rest of this week and into next is to rebuild my strength, take infant steps with my new plumbing situation and adapt to this new normal. As my capacity increases, I will attempt to catch up on a more frequent basis.

A special thanks to our elite team at Flourish Press and WebVitality who have risen to this occasion and have gifted Becky and I with the ability to be focused on this period of surgery and recovery.

Again, thank you. I am truly blessed.


  1. pauladumbrell on February 22, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    So happy for you. Chuck was at the hospital Last week and tried to see you but they had Record of you. Go figure.


  2. Heather Perilman on February 22, 2017 at 4:08 pm

    I am so so happy that you’re home and mostly more comfortable. First phase over…it’s time to heal. You are the master at healing! Your surgery and recovery has been at the front of my mind….. and somehow it was hard to think of how to respond or what to say each time I read an update. I was holding my breath. I am just sending all of my strength and love to you and your family.

  3. Ev Jefferson on February 22, 2017 at 4:13 pm

    Rest, relax and recover. Wonderful news. You are an amazing man and we are all blessed to have you in our lives. Thank you.

    Much love to you both…


  4. Mark L. Maxwell on February 22, 2017 at 4:37 pm

    So glad, Thomas. I am and we all are so glad you are home and in Becky’s good hands.

    We wish you every blessing,


  5. Tim n Jo on February 22, 2017 at 11:07 pm

    YIPEE so glad you are home, quite sure you felt like you had been in hospital forever, and yes the nurses are always in checking you so frequently, which is great but yet on the other hand you can’t seem to rest fully, so now being home you can do that now. Yes you do have such a wonderful wife ! I always referred to her as PIC…… she is my Partner In Crime, and now she is your PIC. Always there for you. ❤️️❤️️❤️️❤️️ SENDING HUGE HUGS YOUR WAY. Take good care of yourself, and look forward to your progress . Love you,……. Cecil & Jo

  6. Jan Easton on February 23, 2017 at 4:38 am

    Awesome news! You write in such a profound way, Tom! We look forward to your ongoing updates and continue to pray over you and send blessings! Love you and Becky! Jan

  7. Dennis E. Barnedt on February 24, 2017 at 10:16 am

    Congratulations on your progress and being home… I will always love your positive energy and attitude and how you express it onto others. You are such an inspirational person and we are all lucky to know you and Becky. Rest up and recuperate, DB